Sick & tired of managing your frizzy wavy & curly hair and always reaching for the straightening iron when there’s an ‘important event’?
What if I told you you’re taking care of it completely wrong?
It’s unfortunate that we don’t grow up learning what I have listed below or we could have saved us years of trouble.
Our hair texture is beautiful, wild, perfect; you just need to learn how to take care of it properly. And to do that you need to understand first- why it is how it is. Which is why this post is incredibly important to read if you have wavy or curly hair.
Find them below. Prepare to be astonished!
Table of Contents
- 1 Curly hair is naturally/structurally/inherently DRY
- 2 Using a regular shampoo will damage your hair
- 3 Don’t comb curly hair dry
- 4 Curly hair shrinks
- 5 Heat damage, Keratin & smoothening treatments is a curly girl’s worst enemy.
- 6 Conditioners, leave in conditioners, hair masks will become your best friends
- 7 Texture Typing – different types of natural hair exist
- 8 Normal towel causes frizz
- 9 Avoid touching or playing with it
- 10 You are incredibly lucky to be a curly girl!
Curly hair is naturally/structurally/inherently DRY
Because of its spiral structure, the natural oils from your scalp can’t reach the ends. It is also why so many of you complain – my scalp is really oily and ends are dry. This gives you rough brittle hair & split-ends, more so with longer hair. That is why conditioning is incredibly important.
The picture on the right of my mothers hair is taken just hours apart from the picture on the left and how most curly girl’s hair will look if left to dry naturally. Continue reading below to see how to get hydrated, shiny curls!
Using a regular shampoo will damage your hair
You know how detergents affect your skin? After you wash your clothes, your palm feels rough & really dry? It’s because of harsh sulphates that make the soap.
The same is used to make shampoos and this strips your scalp+strands of moisture & it’s natural oils, when it was already deficient!
Either you shampoo less (like once a week) or use a non-sulphate shampoo. This is part of CGM or Curly Girl Method. Read more about it here: What is CG Method? Do I Use This?
Want recommendations for shampoos? Find them in this post: Curly Hair Products in India
Don’t comb curly hair dry
When you brush or comb it dry, the strands get separated forcefully & cause frizz! That is why you should ALWAYS comb your hair after applying conditioner inside the shower and after applying a leave in conditioner/curl cream on wet hair outside the shower.
This keeps curly hair clumps hydrated and defined. Look at the two pictures of my hair below, taken a couple of years ago.
The picture on the left is when I would comb it dry and not use a leave in conditioner. The picture on the right is after combing after conditioner & leave in conditioner!
Quite the difference na?
That is why on humid days, you have more frizz than you would in winters. Even if you can’t get rid of it completely, you can reduce it with a good curly hair routine & using a conditioner, leave in conditioner and gel.
Curly hair shrinks
Pull a curly strand straight down & measure – that is your actual length. Curls elongate when they’re wet and shrink when they dry because of its shape.
Remember this when you go get your hair cut next! The hairdresser will wet your hair and comb to cut it. But when it finally dries, it’s shorter than you thought it would be!
Heat damage, Keratin & smoothening treatments is a curly girl’s worst enemy.
Our hair thrives with water, not heat. After having a naturally dry texture, frying it even more with straightening irons, blow dryers will lead to heavy breakage and roughness. Chemical treatments will also last only a few months and you will soon have a lot hair fall, breakage and a very weird texture.
I got it done and regret it to this day. In the picture above, the left one is taken a year after I got a keratin treatment done. You can see how wonky it became and how much thickness I lost. But thankfully, I found what to do.
If like me you have gotten this done and want to get your healthy curls back, read this post: Transitioning from Chemically straightened hair to Curly Hair
And yes, those everyday ten minutes of “harmless” straightening of your bangs to make it look “neat” also damages your hair shaft leaving it dry & rough.
Why not just put in that time and effort to take care of your natural hair?
Conditioners, leave in conditioners, hair masks will become your best friends
Keep products that provides moisture to your hair close!
When readers come to me and ask ‘what shampoo should I use for my curly hair’ with no intentions of ever conditioning, I sigh, deeply.
That’s not what your hair needs to be healthy! Remember less shampooing, more conditioning!
Texture Typing – different types of natural hair exist
Is it wavy, curly or coily/kinky? How dense or porous is it? Will be it be easier for you maintain short or long hair healthily? Do you need to get light conditioners and stylers or invest in rich, buttery ones?
All of this can be found after you learn more about your individual hair type.
I have a mix of 3A & 3B. Find out your curly hair type here : Texture Typing Quiz
This is important to remember because wavy and loose curls need lighter conditioning while people with tighter curls need heavier stylers! Also, how you style your hair changes.
Normal towel causes frizz
Don’t dry your hair with a normal towel. It will create friction with your hair strands and you’ll end up with more frizz.
Instead, use a microfiber towel or an old t Shirt (my go-to) after you’re done styling your curls. If you scrunch up with the t shirt after styling with a leave in conditioner/curl cream/gel, your curl pattern gets activated & becomes tighter too.
A t-shirt is also used in a technique called plopping which really helps your curls to coil better. You can check this out to learn how to do it : How to Plop Curly Hair
Avoid touching or playing with it
Leave your hair alone! Let it dry naturally or use a diffuser. Messing with your hair before it dries will make it super frizzy. And you’ll be left wondering – I did everything right and I still have frizz!
You are incredibly lucky to be a curly girl!
It is beautiful & you can grow to love the hell out of it if you learn how to take care of it properly. Please don’t think straight hair is the only kinda beautiful.
And considering most Indian women, especially South Indians have curly, wavy hair, lets learn to flaunt it, not reduce it to a haystack with chemical straightening & blow drying.
Give it a chance, watch how from frizzy waves & curls, they transform to healthy, soft & bouncy curls !
Ready? Here’s what you should do next:
This will teach you all the easy techniques that I incorporated that will transform your hair too!
Then, hop on over to this post where you can choose curly hair products in your budget: Curly Hair Products in India
If you don’t want to read, get a crash course by watching my video tutorials on my Youtube channel.\